My name is Debasis Das and I was born in the Bokaro district of Jharkhand State. India. My education was done in Bokaro itself, after that I went to two more cities for higher studies.
I went to Kolkata, then Bhubaneswar, after that I came to Delhi where I started my job. Initially, the first five to six months were very difficult. I was struggling because immediately after completing my MBA, I came to Delhi and I had to start my life.
After about five to six months, an accident occurred in the family. My soon-to-be wife’s mother got very sick so she had to leave her job at Delhi to go look after her mother. She was the only daughter in the family so I also had to go there because the situation of my mother-in-law was very critical and then unfortunately, she passed away.
It was during this time that we had started our life and I had just started my professional career. Now that we got the opportunity and we thought if we had to come back, we will first get married and then will go to Delhi.
My mother-in-law passed away, my wife did not have a job, and my job was in the initial phase. I did not know if I should go back or whether I will have that job or not. Will I be able to continue in that company or not? But at that time after discussion with my family, we decided that we will go to Delhi after getting married.
We got married and then I came to Delhi, and then it was the start of my struggling career because I just had joined my job four months back. My wife did not have job. My father had arranged everything for me when I was a student and even during my marriage as I did not have enough money to do arrangements myself for my marriage.
My father wanted me to stand on my own two feet after my marriage. I still remember when we came to Delhi we had only 2500 rupees cash with which we both had to start our married life. We adapted ourselves according to the situation at that time. After one month, my wife got job in Delhi.
The first month passed smoothly because my friends had given us 8000 rupees as a marriage gift. So we had around 10,000 rupees and our first month passed fairly well. The second month I got my salary but it was not much but then my wife got the job.
Then our struggling career started in our life because we both used to do very hard work. We used to work day and night. She used to work night shift and I used to do day shift. Even in our own house we used to meet once a week, because when I came back from office, my wife used to be at work. When she used to come back from office, I would have already left for my office. So our life was going on this way and we started going through many struggles.
In the meantime, I used to think that I have to do all those things at home, I have to earn money, take care of household, grow in life. Life was moving, but in the seventh month, I met with an accident in Delhi. I could not go to office for three months and due to this, my salary was cut.
Then after three months when I joined my job again, I started devoting all my time in my office and I used to work 16 hours a day.
Part 2 Wife’s Perspective
While all these struggles were going in our house, my husband was giving full priority only to his job. He stopped caring for the family, and then many marital and relationship clashes happened between us.
Our thought processes were totally different. Our thinking was not matching in anything. We used to fight in every way and were not trying to understand each other. If I used to say anything to him, he used to ignore it. So a big gap occurred between us. He was after materialistic needs so that he could provide for everything in house, like all the worldly things should be there.
And I wanted him to spend time with me. So in that way so many problems started between us. During that period, my health also started suffering because I started to overwork and I was not focusing on my health at all.
There was a desire to earn money. I had to do a lot of work and I used to get tired and that led to another habit which was alcoholism. It was the 31st December on New Year’s Eve, and my wife’s migraine had increased more, her health was bad that evening as well.
But I was thinking how I could I enjoy the 31st evening, the last day of the year with all those worldly pleasures like others do. I was planning how I will enjoy. Meanwhile, my wife was not well and she was not willing to come with me. But I was trying to convince her if she comes with me then we will enjoy like other people do, then your health might get better.
A believer friend of mine called me asking about my plans for the night. I told him that I am just sitting idle and he invited me at his place for prayer. When we went, they were prayers happening, praise and worship happening. God’s Word was being shared, so we liked it very much. The next day we were invited to a church and we went there as well and we felt good. So the Word of God which was being shared over there at Church, it spoke to us and we felt as if that Word of God was for us only. While we went there, we felt that when we were doing praise and worship, we were crying at that time.
We did not realize it at that time but after the church service was over, we realized that we cried a lot while praying. Then my friend and the pastor told us that whenever there is the presence of God while doing praise and worship, then tears come in our eyes. We didn’t know it before that day and we felt so good. When we listened to the Word of God which was being shared those three hours, they were like a turning point in our life. We felt so good and we both agreed to make a decision to accept Jesus in our life and so we did.
Then in the course of time, although we had accepted Jesus in our hearts but I was not able to leave my old personality. Up to an extent, I was struggling inside about everything. Problems were still there, but every Sunday when I used to go to church and when I used to listen to that new Word of God, then these problems used to subside in life. I was able to understand slowly this new way that we have chosen is not wrong.
The Way, Truth and Life that we chose was not wrong, this way the LORD had started talking to us and slowly we grew in the LORD. We both used to discuss with each other on these matters. My wife had succeeded to leave the old things quickly but I was not able to do so. She used to make me understand the Word of God. I understood the Word of God; I was listening to the Word of God. I wanted to walk according to the Word of God, but I had lot of hesitation to take that Word of God to the people.
A very big hesitation as I am a banker by profession so where I am working, when I see that people are doing wrong things, then I used to struggle inside of me of how I should put Jesus in front of people. But there was a fear how I will say this. What will people say that you have changed your religion, you have converted yourself? I was under this fear. But as I grew in the Word of God, I kept understanding the deeper meaning of the Word of God. As I kept accepting Jesus in myself, and I didn’t know that the fear automatically started going away. But still there were some things in me which were wrong and I was not able to come out of these.
Still there was alcoholism up to some extent. There was a problem in my office and that night my wife told me, I will have to come out of it and I will need to get rid of all this. That night I decided that I will leave it. I did not have that courage but I prayed to God that I don’t have that strength; you can only give me strength to get rid of this thing.
And the very next day I felt it. That day and today it’s been 5 years, I never looked back. Even the urge for alcohol is abolished from my mind because at my work place where I sit with, the people around me, there is so much of all this. But God has vanished that urge from my heart.
And I am so thankful to God for all this because the day I left all this, the changes started to happen in my life which I understood now. My wife had a severe migraine issue she has been healed from it. I would say there is only 5 to 10 percent remained and that too without any medicine. God has healed her from that sickness.
Now when we sit to have family time, I could not be with her at that time. God spoke to me that I have to be compassionate towards my wife, towards my family in giving them quality time. I adapted all this in my life slowly and I came out of it, and when I sit in front of people, I don’t feel afraid that where I am sitting how rich or wealthy that person might be.
I make it a point to share the Word of God with that person. This is a very big change God has brought into my life as soon as I decided and tried to walk in the narrow path of the LORD where God leads us. I think when God has put me at that work place to work then I should bring the light of the LORD to those people. I think that is the motive of the LORD to put me in that company.
As soon as we started walking according to the ways of the LORD, slowly we felt so many changes in our lives. The ego of earning subsided in my husband’s life. God redeemed him from the habit of alcoholism and when these things left, we saw the blessings of God pouring into our house.
My daughter started growing in the LORD. We sit together and read the Bible. We sit together and pray in the family so we feel very good. We feel peace at home and the joy of the LORD is there. Daily God gives me topics for prayer when I pray and when I go to office, I speak to myself then I share it with people.
Now I am on that turning point of my life where I am getting all the things that I need. But I get peace not only because of that but I get peace when I see how many people I have shared the Word of God today. So I have kept a target the same way that I pray every day that it’s my target today that I will share at least God’s good news with people. If I meet 5 people, I will talk to at least 4 people and God is giving me that strength. He is giving me that wisdom to achieve that target at the end of the day. I thank God that He has chosen me for all this and He gives me the strength to accomplish everything every day, every time.
I want to say this to all that as God has changed my life, God can change your life as well. We just need to walk in His ways, we need to follow His Words and leave everything in God’s hands. When we focus on the secrets of God’s Kingdom, when we read His Words, it’s not about only reading the Word, it’s about understanding the Word of God and sharing it with others when we sit with them.
So my message is that when we will walk on those ways, then God knows what we need, He knows as He dwells in each and every smallest thing in our life. He fulfils everything and He fulfils that need as well, when I need to share the Word of God with anyone; what will be that time, what will be that topic, what will be that wisdom through which I will share that Word of God with any brother or sister whenever I meet anyone for the first time.
You also do the same thing. When you concentrate on the things for the Kingdom of God, then God will fulfil all your needs.
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