“A raindrop on its own forms barely even a puddle. It is a thing of beauty to the perceptive eye when seen in the pure light. But many raindrops create storms, rivers, oceans and ultimately the very source of life upon which every creature depends. I may have felt like a raindrop all my life, but together with all the others in God’s family, I am part of God’s great river of life bringing hope to a dead world”.
I was born in the UK, the last of 4 children to a Brahmin Hindu couple who had emigrated from Kerala in 1955. My father was not religious in any way; in fact, he was into politics and had been a journalist for a communist newspaper in the 1940s during turbulent times in India. He had been in jail for some time for his political beliefs. He married my mother immediately after India’s Independence in 1947 when he was 29 years old and she was 15.
My mother was very religious and she brought us up in the Brahmin tradition in the UK. My father became a traveling salesman whilst my mother took care of the children and when I was old enough; she started working for BOAC (now known as British Airways). By this time, we were living in Southall, Middlesex, which saw a huge influx of North Indians in the early 1960s. I was very aware at the primary school that my siblings and I were in the minority but at that age, we never thought about race issues. We happily played and grew up with our classmates and neighbors’ children.
We went to India for the very first time in 1963. This was a traumatic experience for us – the heat, strange smells, beautiful sights, animals, and strange customs created memories that would last a lifetime, some wonderful and others traumatic. It was the first of several bi-annual family trips to India, which would lead to my transformation as a Christ-follower.
As a 19 year’s old, I saw things that troubled and saddened me, which would affect me deeply in later life. When I was about 3 years old, a stranger came to my parents’ house, took me out to a fair, and bought me, sweets, on the way. I did not know who he was or why he was there but when I was brought back, my mother screamed at him in a language I could not understand, throwing the sweets into the back of the large cupboard in the lounge.
I never saw the man again but from then I developed a fear of men and became frightened of my mother’s temper. I never talked about the incident to anyone throughout my life as I realized that this man could have abducted me. I wondered why did he bring me back to my parents’ house and why did he take me away without asking my mother? These questions haunted me for many years.
I was always frightened of strangers and haunted by nightmares as a result. When I was 9 years old, I experienced racism for the first time. The fact that it came from my school friends whom I knew since I was 5 years old and they were Punjabis and Muslims made it worse. I was devastated when they decided to create a gang – “the makeup gang.” I was not allowed to join, as my mother would not allow us to wear makeup. I was no longer one of their friends! I played on my own for hours in the schoolyard, my heart was breaking because I was now an outsider and I did not know why.
In the summer holidays, I was at the local park, which we visited every Saturday, and at weekends when the weather was nice. One day we went to the swings to play. I eagerly waited for a child on a wooden swing to pause so I could have my turn on the swing. As I looked up, the girl pulled the swing forward, fast and low that it went crashing into my forehead stunning me. The pain was excruciating and was likely to be the cause of a condition, which would lead to depression and daily headache syndrome for much of my life. We had no extended family in the UK and were not allowed to have friends, which was very stressful.
I had become the victim of sexual abuse and by my mid-teens had begun contemplating suicide. It seemed everyone in my family hated each other. My parents and siblings seemed indifferent to what I was going through. I became introspective, had deep feelings of rejection and isolation as a teenager; I became more and more distant from them.
As a depressed 18-year-old, failed my exams, isolated I decided to go back to my primary school. I mostly held sad memories except for one teacher who showed some interest in me when I told her I had started having piano lessons. I was 10 years old and playing the piano in my parents’ front room became my escape from daily stress, brawls, and screaming matches between my older siblings and my parents. It was my safe place where I could shut the door and hide in music because I knew no one was interested in listening to me play the piano or sing. In fact, I was ridiculed and never received any affirmation from my family during my childhood.
I was tolerated and never felt accepted. I went back to primary school and managed to find out about my music teacher. She had moved, by now, was married with children. I wrote a letter to her explaining what I was doing now, that I had left grammar school without any A levels, felt that I had no prospects, and had no idea what kind of job I could get. I had been seeking for truth during these very dark years.
This teacher had taught me music and had reached out to me. This one act of kindness towards a lonely confused, and depressed 10 year old had a huge impact. It was also one of many “God-incidences” up to that point which drew my attention to the fact that God was hovering over my life as it says in Genesis “And the Spirit of God brood over the waters..” He was drawing me to Himself without my even knowing or asking Him to!
A few weeks after writing the letter, I received a response from the teacher. I was amazed, as I had no friends in the new area my parents had moved to and she seemed to be what I wanted in a friend. She wrote about how she had remembered me, her new family life, and about my search for truth.
Her letter ended with these words “Vasantha, if there is one thing I can pass on to you, it’s the opportunity to seek Jesus.” I had no idea she was a Christian! These were words I did not want to read, however, I was indoctrinated with so many conflicting ideas about Jesus that I had already decided to create my own religion made up of all the good bits of other religions, which I actually knew very little about! I pretended I knew everything and told my teacher in subsequent letters but all she ever wrote back to me was about my SIN and how Jesus was the only person who could solve the problem of my sin.
One year and numerous letters later, I still had no peace, was lonely, depressed, and confused so I asked if I could meet my teacher at her home. I did not tell my parents where I was going as I had little reason to. I just wanted to get away from everyone. At the end of my day with her family, I asked my teacher if she had anything I could read. She ran upstairs and brought her husband’s bible, which had written on the front a passage from 1st Corinthians 13 “…and the greatest of these is love.” I began reading the passage and the Gospel of John as my teacher had encouraged me.
My days were long and lonely during that summer when I had failed my A levels in Biology and Chemistry a second time. Feeling disillusioned after practicing the piano for hours in the hope of being able to study music at college instead, I sat at the table and said to God: “If you are with me, tell me who you are.”
A voice inside me simply said, “My name is Jesus Christ” and on hearing those words I felt a huge weight lift off me. Later that day in my bedroom I knelt on the floor and prayed a prayer no one had ever taught me and received Christ as my Savior. I had no idea what life would bring along, never imagining that I would suddenly be accepted to study music at a college that was far from my family. I would end up in a borderline cult for 7 difficult years during which I was told that if I wanted to serve God, I would have to give up everything, including my career and college and so I did, causing my parent’s much pain as I had no point of reference as far as churches were concerned.
They had no idea I had become a Christian. I had such a strong desire to serve God that I became depressed whatever work I did as my relationship with my family and people in the church was difficult for many years. I ended up in YWAM (Youth with a Mission) for 2 years and this led to 10 years as a gospel singer in the UK and other countries. God moved in my life so powerfully that I realized this was His way of keeping me close to Him and giving me the love few people around me had ever given me.
Through the years since my journey began, 35 years ago I have been misunderstood, spiritually abused, and felt like a wanderer in the church. I rarely felt accepted as I never felt completely Asian. I felt but did not look British and that seemed to be a problem for people. Yes, I was accepted to a certain degree and God did bring a few special people into my life but I never felt I was really part of “family” in the Body of Christ.
I was single, female, from a heathen background, often viewed suspiciously by leaders, and even asked to leave a church because I was of the wrong nationality! All through the pain, isolation, and lack of friendships, I made the choice to forgive and I am grateful for those who did believe in me and remained loyal in spite of geographical separation. I also learned my conflict resolving skills were appalling and would always run away from conflict.
Some years ago I had the opportunity to have counseling at a Christian healing ministry in the UK. My journey into healing began. It was to be a traumatic journey with my facing literal death for the third time in my life as God dug deep into my past hurts, fears, and brokenness but God brought me through as He promised and restored me. There were generational issues to be dealt with causing me trauma to the point where I felt I was being terrorized by the enemy mentally.
My journey into the physical long-term and mental illness gave me compassion for those who suffer in this area. I later trained in healing ministry myself and have discovered that much of our healing simply comes through having genuine relationships with others in the Body of Christ and experiencing the reality of family in the church, which is something, eluded me for many years. I was taken to an Asian church as a young Christian but the memories of racism as a 9-year-old had affected me so deeply I never felt comfortable.
I could not speak or understand the languages being spoken and felt as much an alien as in any other church. In fact, I could not bear to be around Asians at all…one pastor even told me to “Go and speak to those visitors…they are YOUR people”…I ran as fast as I could in the opposite direction! During the course of counseling, I found out from my mother that her father was a Brahmin priest although she never knew him and had kept this a secret throughout her life. I wonder if that is where my deep sense of God’s call on my life came from so much so that I struggled for many years with secular work. I was told in screaming tones as a child by my mother that her mother had abused and abandoned her when she was a child.
My grandmother had turned her back on her family and become an actress at the Bombay Talkie studios long before Bollywood came into existence. The childhood embarrassment of going to watch Bollywood movies every Sunday with a mother who sobbed her way through every film was profound but her behavior now made sense. My mother was mourning the loss of parents she had never had and could not be to us as she isolated us, forbade us to have friends, threatened us with physical harm if we disobeyed and yet she never carried out those threats.
My mother is a lioness who hurt deeply for her children because of her own loss. Last year, I was given the opportunity to do a 3-year degree program, which I completed in just 8 months! At school, my headmaster wrote in a report “Vasantha has an inability to retain information”…God proved him so very wrong!
I came out to the top of the college in record time and am about to become an Executive Vice President in a company in the UK. God restores the years the locust has eaten. My life has been difficult, but through it all, God has been faithful, never leaving or abandoning me, saving my father on his deathbed, restoring relationships that had barely existed and changing my family as He has worked in me and shown He is a loving Heavenly Father who seeks the one in order to bring in the many.
Shalom Vasantha. I’m Angel Lucy from Jesus Saves (S’pore) Ministry. Your life story is very touching. I thank God that you are now a Christian. Do what’s app me at 91545668. I would like to share our life testimonies & supernatural miracles in our lives. God bless you. Jesus loves you. We care. And Angels protect you. It is God’s divine arrangement for us to know each other.
Dear Angel Lucy,
Thank you for your kind comments. May the LORD bless you.
Dear Angel Lucy
Thank you for your kind comment. I’d love to get in touch. I am also on Facebook if you’ld like to contact me there!
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